The architecture of the brain is conservative by design. Its first allegiance is to the self that has already survived — not to the self that is trying to be born.
This is why the woman who knows she is meant for more often feels the strongest resistance precisely at the moment she begins. The discomfort is not a sign she is wrong. It is a sign the rewiring has begun.
What we call self-sabotage is, in most cases, the nervous system completing its job. It is asking, in the only way it knows how: are you sure?
The work, then, is not to silence the resistance. The work is to learn its language — and to answer it, again and again, with the steadiness of a woman who has already made up her mind.
Dr. Gissele Donovan